In June

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Eating: better than I was 6 months ago but still not as well as I could be.

Drinking: more water now that I have a Camelbak. Aiming for 5 bottles a day (100 ounces)!

Practicing: recording my calories using MFP (again).

Trying: to remember to enjoy every stage.

Playing: jazz on Spotify.

Finishing: way less than I used to, and still adjusting to it. If I get one phone call made in a few days, it’s a productive week!

Reading: We All Fall Down by Jennifer Weiner

Watching: Orange is the New Black, Season 2

Remembering: the summer I turned 30; this one feels so similar in many ways, and yet I am so very different.

Wearing: way too many pairs of these.

Cooking: roasted veggies.

Working: out at the gym.

Traveling: to Tampa in early July to meet our newest niece!

Wanting: to make some decisions about if we’re going to consider buying a home or continue renting.

32 Things I’m Thankful For…

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Today I’m 32!

And in honor of this previous year, I thought I’d share theย 32 things I’m thankful for at 32.

(in no particular order, although there is a clear top ranking) ๐Ÿ˜‰

  1. Evan
  2. Finding out I was pregnant
  3. A healthy and “easy” pregnancy
  4. Our family (both sides) for supporting us in SO MANY WAYS
  5. John landing his new job
  6. Finally landing theย job ย I’ve wanted for years (despite two weeks of baby-induced sleep deprivation surrounding both interviews)
  7. My mom for watching Evan
  8. My mom for teaching me so many things about being a mom – she’s been amazing at giving me real-time, “on the job” training ๐Ÿ˜‰
  9. Learning to appreciate even the smallest of homes during our rough patch in 2013
  10. Our beautiful niece, Lily
  11. Hynobabies, the midwives and my doula
  12. Having health insurance that covered just about everything from E’s birth
  13. Our whole family, waiting overnight in the waiting room during labor
  14. The way Evan’s birth went down (even if it wasn’t my planned birth)
  15. Getting to experience breastfeeding
  16. My best girlfriends for always keeping it real
  17. The trip John and I took toย Washington, D.C.
  18. Our anniversary trip back to Sebring
  19. Speaking at my field’s national convention in Las Vegas (while pregnant!)
  20. Being able to work part-time during pregnancy and postpartum
  21. Being able to stay home with E over the summer
  22. Our healthy pets
  23. Fellow mamas, near and far, who buoyed me in times of need
  24. My strong and capable body
  25. So many good books
  26. Old Navy for helping me flatter my aforementioned “strong and capable” (weirdly misshapen postpartum) body
  27. John’s sense of humor
  28. This blog, and those of you who read it – I really enjoy writing here
  29. Our pets. While under-foot and sometimes really on-my-nerves, they are all really good animals and each add something rich and special to life, everyday
  30. Our ever-so-comfy bed
  31. The means and ability to dream big with John and Evan
  32. The perspective and inner growth gained over the last 365 days; I’m a better person today than I was this same day last year, and I hope I can say that on every single birthday for the rest of my life

This past year has been the craziest, most exciting, scary, amazing, weird, wonderful and memorable of my life. 32 isn’t looking too shabby, either. ๐Ÿ™‚

The Art of Saying No

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I came across this on Pinterest from this blog, and it made me think about the art of saying no.

Life isย ripe with parties, sales pitches, emails, meetings, groups events, etc. At almost 32 I am old enough to know what I want to do and what I don’t. But yet, I can’t say no to something simply because I don’t want to. Right?

To the guy at Barnes and Noble who does his best pitch for a membership, “no” is easy. In a customer-employee exchange “no” isn’t personal. I was on the selling side long enough before teaching to know this inside and out.

Saying “no” with the people I’m really close with is easy too. But in most other areas of my life, “no” is not so easy for me, especially in those social situations where you’re not close friends, but you’re friendly. Maybe you even used to be close but you’re not anymore. How do you say “no” to things with those people?

I’ve always considered this difficulty with being “nice” or having “tact” or “keeping the peace” but is it? Where do those end and “people-pleasing” begin? I’m really not sure, but I do know as time marches on and I am working and itching to spend my (very limited) time either with my family or doing my own thing, I am going to HAVE to get better about saying no.

And I’d love it if invitations came with a “because I don’t want to” option. Because really,ย isn’t that what things often come down to in life?

How have you mastered the art of saying no?